Avoiding the infinite loop of crazy

September 4th, 2008 · 4 Comments · Parenting

Today was a beautiful, peaceful day. The sun was shining, the breeze was blowing, and the house was quiet. The kids have been in school for three weeks now, and every day still feels like Christmas morning.

Remember that commercial from Staples that they ran at the end of every summer? As the song “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” plays on the sound system at Staples, a man (obviously a dad) dances down the aisle, pushing a cart full of school supplies. His kids watch, slack-jawed and dejected.  I like that commercial. I wish it was still on TV. It makes me sing.

Anyway, today was glorious. I felt peaceful, calm, and grateful. Around midday I decided I’d probably post about being thankful, and how much gratitude I had for the gift that was today.

Then 2:30 p.m. came, and along with it the day-after-Christmas letdown: I picked up the kids.

Now I do love the kidlets. Really I do. I miss them when they’re not around. But right now the contrast between the silence when they’re gone and the cacophony when they’re home is really jarring.

While the kids are at school, I can forget for awhile these familial realities:

The Red Clay Children don’t walk; they run. They don’t talk; they yell. They don’t laugh; they scream. And they don’t sit calmly on the couch. Instead, they use the back of it like a balance beam.

No part of the house is off-limits. Nothing is done silently. There is no escape. And all the peace and quiet is sucked out of every room.

I have to choose: will I let the chaos suck out my inner peace?

I’ve heard someone describe a mom’s job as that of a thermostat. Not a thermometer, which just displays the temperature of a room. Because a thermostat connects to the power source, it can actually regulate the room’s temperature.

I like that analogy. As Mom, I can tell that the family’s mood is often set by mine. That means my mood had better be influenced by something outside of the family. Otherwise, we all get in an infinite loop of crazy.

This reminds me that I need a source of peace. Not just when the kids are making me crazy. But especially when they are. As a Christian, I believe that I am only capable of being a thermostat when I cling to God as my source. On my own, I am ultimately a thermometer.

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  • 1 terri tiffany // Sep 5, 2008 at 9:32 am

    I loved this!! I could so relate but it has been awhile. I love my peaceful down time–I love the quiet but now that I am a new empty-nester–I miss the noise, the clothes on the floor in the messy rooms, the stereo blasting in the bathroom while the shower runs for an hour. I miss it all and yet I don’t!

    Hope you keep enjoying these precious years and moments! Blessings!

  • 2 terri tiffany // Sep 5, 2008 at 10:22 am

    It is Clermont Florida! I live in the middle of the state. This is an old picture and that tower is still there but surrounded by housing developments! We live in Lake county and there are many lakes around and one small mountain that I can see from my office window. I used that tower as a marker for me to find my way home when I first moved here.

    I hope you decide to take writing seriously– you write very well! And blogging is fun:)

  • 3 terri tiffany // Sep 5, 2008 at 10:24 am

    oops– I thought you were talking about my other blog–http://clermontchristianwriters.blogspot.com- – sorry– yes, this picture was taken in Italy by my daughter when she traveled there before she got married a few years ago!

  • 4 Joanne // Sep 5, 2008 at 10:40 am

    Hi, I saw your blog over on Terri Tiffany’s and thought I’d pop over and take a look. Love this post, esp comparing the mornings to Christmas! Very cute. I’ve often heard, When Mom’s happy, everyone’s happy! So true …

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